Posts made in September, 2007


Posted by on Sep 15, 2007 in Uncategorized | 4 comments

So our template got hosed. Hang on. We’ll make ‘er purty soon.

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Sickness and Disease

Posted by on Sep 10, 2007 in Uncategorized | 3 comments

My kid got his very first cold last week and he is still sniffing and choking on the goo draining down his throat. Of course, we’ve had it too, which makes taking care of the sick little guy even more enjoyable. Who doesn’t want to feel wiped out and snotty while trying to convince a four month old to sleep? Right? In spite of the head goo, he’s still been pretty pleasant.

Oh yeah, and he’s getting huge…..

Gearing up on Game Day

Chillin with Grans while she watches her stories

Hanging out with Grandma…it really is this much fun

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It’s Not What You Think

Posted by on Sep 4, 2007 in Uncategorized | 5 comments

So, on Sunday, there was a panel at church discussing singleness and all of the side dishes that are served up with it. The panel was really great and they had a lot of good things to say. I couldn’t help but feel like the people were naturally defensive or that as they clarified statements they weren’t having to remind all of the listeners that they are humans. Why? Well, frankly because the whole world is set up for groups of two or more. And because there is all this pressure for single people to get married. And because married people are somehow ‘complete’ or some-nonsense. And because everybody is always trying to set them up with someone.

I remember once when I was working somewhere before I was married, a friend told me that someone asked them why I wasn’t married and the friend then told me a bunch of reasons they conveyed and asked if I agreed with them. Some of them, yes. Some of them, no. But really, what I wanted to say, was ‘what does it matter? Why can’t I be single and that be that. Why does anybody make it their concern that I’m not dating somebody?” Because, seriously, it’s not only fine to be single (and now that I’ve written that word about fifty times, I am again reminded about how much I despise that term…it’s not like I’m now a double), it’s better.



Yeah, check it out…..

1 Corinthians 7
Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband…But this I say by way of concession, not of command. Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am.However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that. But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. But if they do not have self-control, let them marry….

…Only, as the Lord has assigned to each one, as God has called each, in this manner let him walk, And so I direct in all the churches. Was any man called when he was already circumcised? He is not to become uncircumcised. Has anyone been called in uncircumcision? He is not to be circumcised. Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but what matters is the keeping of the commandments of God. Each man must remain in that condition in which he was called.

…Brethren, each one is to remain with God in that condition in which he was called. Now concerning virgins I have no command of the Lord, but I give an opinion as one who by the mercy of the Lord is trustworthy. I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is. Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you….

…But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, and his interests are divided. The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband. This I say for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord.

So, what is Paul trying to tell us? He’s saying that it’s better to remain solely focused on the things that really matter, the things that are above, the things that have eternal value. When you are married (as I am) you are distracted from the uni-focused life and must think about your spouse and how to ensure harmony in the home.

Before I was married I could put in sixty, seventy, eighty hours at the church and the only thing that was damaged in the end was my bleary eyesight. Now, I am fettered, by a husband, a baby, making meals, and all the trappings of married life. Good things? Yes (and Paul does not say they are not good). But was I of greater impact in my church family and in the world when I didn’t have all of these things? Absolutely. I wish that people would have been able to see all of that instead of wondering if they knew someone who’d be ‘right for me.’

Let’s stop acting like married people are complete. Let’s stop thinking being single is some kind of holding pattern until they all join us on this side of the unity candle. Let’s not give them pity. It’s not wanted. And it’s not appropriate. Let’s be thankful there are people living single lives, for the glory of God.

[steps off soapbox. sits down.]

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